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An Absence of Malice.

INDIA | Monday, 21 July 2008 | Views [1137] | Comments [9]

I would have posted this sooner but I have lost the flow in the past couple of days.

 Things that can hurt. Being told that your adoption case has been adjourned is at the top of my list of life pains. Sure there was no intention on the part of the judge to hurt me, she just had other, more important things to do,so she let our case go for another week. And now our lawyer is not confident that it will be dealt with this Saturday either. So now we have a meeting this morning to try and sort out where we stand and why cases similar to ours have been dealt with  and ours has not.

I am not, I don't think, a vindictive person. I am grateful to the gods for putting me in  the position I now find myself. But ,and it's a big one, I have a  three year girl who has been in an orphanage for over a year now and the lack of urgency on the part of the judicial system is, I believe, criminal. You only have to look at the Hague convention under  the rights of children, to which India is a signatory, to press that case.

So, I remain hopeful, I meditate on not being angry. I cast prayer to the heavens that good souls will shield me from malice.

Tags: adoption, delhi, the hague convention

Comments

1

Oh, Raj, what a terrible disappointment. I'd be wanting to know why your case has taken so long when others have been processed much earlier. And it is criminal that Ankita is allowed to remain in an orphanage, however kind her carers, and that her family wait as well.

'm doing a bit of creative visualisation on your behalf. I can see the Golden Child claiming her sister and the parents sobbing as their family is completed. I can see the family celebration - your first night all together; I can see you on the plane and Neelu explaining to Ankita what is going to happen; I can see the welcoming party as you alight; I can see you showing off this new child to all of us who have grown to love the first one so much.

It will happen. Stay strong.

Much love to you and Footette and Neelu Lynxx

  Lyn and the Burdle Jul 21, 2008 2:53 PM

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Dear Raj, Shayne & Neelu,
Your writing is beautiful Raj.
So sorry to hear of the delays that you have to endure. Difficult to understand why something so simple needs to be delayed and delayed. Sadly, the lowest priority is Ankita herself......
I can only imagine the frustration levels and helplessness you must be feeling.It leaves you with love, hope, faith and prayer.....and discovering anything that you can do to short circuit the process. Not exactly comforting I know, but she is yours now and one day you really will all be together.

Loads of love to you all, we are thinking of you.
Nyema Jon & Rose

  Nyema, Jon & Rose Jul 21, 2008 4:36 PM

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Our journeys have taken us off your path but never from our thoughts.Dirk Hartog island rugged terrain ,dirt red,shell beaches and seas glassy and mysterious alluringly sensual . And to tread where those intrepid explorers had stood in 1616 , sailing blind, dropping lines to gauge the depths ....... as you, traveling in unexplored waters ,prayed for by family and friends. Keep sailing strong and confidently even when it feels that the odds are against you, ...... you shall not fall. You are love x H,D G and G

  Helen Taylor Jul 22, 2008 11:40 AM

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Just read your latest post and totally gone silent! As you put it" lack of urgency on the part of judical system, I think is criminal" is exactly what came to my mind...specially when that lil angel has been waiting for last year to join the family.
Stay strong Raj & Shayne..and remember you are in our prayers & thoughts and positive vibes and you will beat the odds before you know it and will be sitting there thinking " How did I manage to cope with such a ridiculous system!!"
And give a big big hug to Neelu frm us.

  Toongi & Saiful Jul 22, 2008 1:42 PM

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Dear Raj, I'm so sorry to hear the latest. It must be so terribly upsetting, exhausting and stressful to be so close and then be turned away. I so hope there is a positive development on Saturday. You are in my prayers. Much love to You and Shayne and Neelu.....what a gem she is! xxxxxxxxxx

  linda cropper Jul 23, 2008 8:04 AM

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Dear Rajban, Foothead, Neelu-Blue and Ankita, we love you. Calm steps with deep breaths and if that doesn't work get a dog up em. Love Andy, Lisard and Rex.xxx

  elisabeth gahl Jul 23, 2008 9:37 AM

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Darlings. My thoughts and love are with you. Think about you everyday. Try not to dwell on the obstacles! They will make the experiences deeper I suspect. Loads of love to you all XXX XXX

  Kris Jul 24, 2008 3:03 PM

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Hi guys

I do hope things start happening sooner rather than later. Any luck in trying to get in touch with Mittal - not sure if he can help but give it a try.

Love to Ankita and Neelu

Sheetal

  Sheetal Jul 25, 2008 2:13 PM

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Hi Oh what do we say to comfort at this time, I don,t know because I understand your heartache and I know words don,t help at such a frustrating time, but do be assured of our prayers and as you already know look foward to that wonderful moment when she will finally be yours. Take care sarah and Family

  Sarah, Chris and Family Jul 26, 2008 10:35 PM

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