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3 Do's (& 3 Dont's) To Dealing With Love Abroad

AUSTRALIA | Tuesday, 15 March 2016 | Views [369]

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Are you Eat, Pray, Love with the eat or the pray and just a lot of love? No need to feel ashamed about travelling for the amorous connection, it’s a great way to meet new people—and potential lovers.


But if you’re a first timer (forgive the term!) with relationships abroad then there’s a couple of things that will make your life easier on the love train. Just check out my tips for the trade and get to sightseeing, and side canoodles!  


  1. Do pick up on eye contact.


Eye contact is the universal language of interest; it doesn’t always have to be romantic connections per se, but it’s absolutely true that eyes are the windows to the soul, so don’t give up on anyone you meet that you immediately lock eyes with. Especially if they’re willing to linger on what they see!


A lot of things can be overcome in terms of language barriers—especially if those barriers are more like Great Walls—but never fear because the eyes have it.  


  1. Don’t overlook circumstances.


If you’re in a tourist bar and looking for a one night stand, you’re in luck—that’s exactly what you’re likely to get.


When you’re travelling abroad experiences can be meditated as they are at home, even if you’re on a schedule and even if you’re stick to a tight agenda because no matter where you are, there are certain formulas for certain outcomes that work no matter where in the world you find yourself.


So if you’re on the search for a meet-cute that ends in a lifelong romance there are always exceptional circumstances, but a lot of the time it’s a simple mix of certain factors. So if you want to get your party on, and experience the flash, go to the nightclub. If you’re more into the slow burn, make sure your circumstances are somewhat more deliberate, and stage yourself in the local market, beside the square’s fountain, or enchantingly wedged in a corner seat of the best coffee in town.


  1. Do learn about cultural signals.


Wherever you’re headed, it’s never bad to do a little beforehand research and get fluent in the culture and lifestyle style of the people because one thing you really don’t want to do is mistake a flirt for general conversation, or an accident for a marraige proposal.


Some cultures, like the vibrant Caribbean temperament in Cuba or Jamaica, are perfect for open flirty techniques, cat calling, sensual dancing with strangers, openly being able to touch a friend in the street, and other things most cultures wouldn’t think about. But on the other side of the world, like in Dubai, those things are strictly forbidden and could get you into a lot of trouble.


So how do you know the difference? Get a book, read up, and then trust your gut because a lot of the time, you’ll be able to tell that she’s into you, so it’s just about how to best go about it.    


  1. Don’t expect anything.


The thing about travel that makes it so exciting is that you’ve got a time limit, an expiration date so to speak. This lends itself to make choices that you normally wouldn’t, be wilder, and less judicious with your inhibitions—which is all a good thing.


But when it comes to affairs of the heart it’s best if you don’t try to label anything right away, or maybe even ever (if it’s a short thing) because fleeting happenstance meetings and instant connections are sometimes just that: a connection. At the end of the day you’re going to make a million connections in one lifetime and if you don’t put pressure on some of the ones you foster abroad then they could turn into amazing lifelong friendships that mean you have a place to stay in Cannes for life. Just take everything with a grain of salt, sit back, chill, and let it all happen.


  1. Do take safety measures.


It’s not particularly the best idea to go out and get absolutely hammered and then decide to make big choices, like going home with a stranger. Travel STDs are a real thing and they aren’t pretty...so be safe. Take provisions with you, always go out with a friend, don’t ever put your drink down; these are basics that everyone should have down, but there’s always those slip ups here and there...just don’t be one of them!


  1. Don’t forget.


This is practical as well as philosophical—don’t forget where you are literally, and don’t forget where you are metaphorically.


First, being abroad and travelling lends itself to allow for freer expression, risk taking, and the lot, but make sure you never put yourself in a position where you don’t remember where you are—it’s a sure way to attract a lot of trouble.


But most importantly, don’t forget your experiences. Your wild ride down the Thames at 4am surrounded my old friends, new friends, and everything in between, getting brunch at that tiny cafe in the middle of Montmartre who’s name you don’t remember, spotting a sea turtle from 100 feet in the air over Bay Rouge in St. Maarten; those are the things you don’t want to let slip out of your mind, so write it down, take all the pictures...that way they’ll live on forever in your mind.


Until next time...bon voyage!


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